emotional scars aren't visible but they don't heal
As a child, I was always fascinated by the Incredible Hulk, how an ordinary man could turn into something big and powerful. I didn't understand anger management or what triggered people to become angry then.
Strip away the story outline, the mad scientist of a father who experimented on himself and the innocent son who inherited the cursed legacy, and you arrive at simple truths, as follows.
If you can't control your anger, you will operate on the basis of "the best defense is a good offense." In other words, you will hurt other people. Others will mirror you with equal aggression. This will fuel your anger, so that, like the Hulk, you become angrier and more aggressive.
While physical wounds eventually heal and are forgotten, emotional scars remain. While physical scars may stay visible, the pain often disappears. Meanwhile, emotional scars are invisible to the naked eye, but the pain doesn't go away.
The man that becomes the Hulk looks normal. In fact, he is a good-looking, intelligent young man. His recurring nightmares stem from unresolved emotional scars from the past. When he becomes the Hulk, his physical wounds heal fast. Despite his size, he is emotionally crippled.
The only person who can tame the Hulk is his laboratory colleague, the love of his life. She is the only one he trusts. She is his soul mate. She can calm him down and bring him back to normality.
Question: How do you tame an angry man who continues to hurt others and get more aggressive?
Answer: Get the one he trusts and loves to calm him down and find out the root of his anger, the cause of his suffering. Anger management is what he needs, otherwise there will be more destruction. And the cycle never ends.
17 May 2004 Monday
Related entries & links:
The Hulk - official site